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Blink, and three years will pass in an instant.
I mean, while you know and I know that it’s only actually been three minutes since our gorgeous 14-month-old boys moved into our family, the calendar (damn that thing – is it even a trustworthy article?) suggests it’s actually been nearly three years.
Besides wanting to know whether the Google calendar app is capable of speeding up time, I guess I also need to be thinking about applying for some school places.
How did this happen???
One minute our boys are commando-crawling across the floor – and the next, they’re taking their lives into their hands at every opportunity, causing my heart to skip a beat every time they’re about to jump from something waaaaayyy too high.
One minute they’re babbling and cooing – the next, they’re articulately and precisely telling me Every.Single.Detail of something-or-other, the relevance of which I can’t quite work out.
Fortunately, the school we chose for our eldest two kids is pastorally brilliant, highly experienced with looked-after children, and goes above-and-beyond to meet the needs of the individuals within its care.
The only hesitation in putting it as first choice for our boys will be due to impossible laundry piles or lengthy afternoons making slime (you know how it is with kids and slime. You don’t? Oh, err…forget I said anything) – and not because we’re unsure about the place.
I appreciate, though, that choosing a school for an adopted child isn’t always this easy. If you have an adopted child starting school soon, you may be wondering how to choose a good school for your child. After all, there are certain needs to take into consideration.
Perhaps it’s your first child who’s preparing to go to school – or perhaps you have older children, but sense that the school they attend will not be the best choice for your adopted or fostered child.
In that case, here are five questions to ask a prospective school which will start a helpful discussion. They are not exhaustive, nor might you feel it necessary to ask every single one – but they are certainly a good place to start when choosing a school for an adopted child.
So, here we go: How do I find the best primary school for my child?
(If your kids aren’t adopted or fostered, check out Top 5 Questions to Ask when Visiting a Primary School. And if your child is starting secondary school, I have a post for you too: What questions should I ask a secondary school?)
What questions should I ask a potential school?
1. Who is your designated lead for looked-after children?
a) It’s Mr/Mrs/Miss/Ms So-and-So… (The best answer.)
b) Er…we haven’t quite sorted that one out yet. (Don’t write off the school just yet – they may be open to hearing more about it from you.)
c) Designated what? (Leave. Immediately.)
A new piece of legislation from the UK government this year requires all maintained schools to have a designated person who keeps an eye on the looked-after children (LAC) within their care (this includes children who are adopted and are no longer under Local Authority care).
The likelihood is that this responsibility will fall to someone who is already employed by the school in a pastoral capacity. This, in my opinion, is the ideal.
It isn’t really appropriate for a class teacher to have this role, as they’re massively overstretched as it is, and need to be allowed to focus on the children in their class. An exception to this might be if the teacher in question was a member of the senior leadership team, who was given enough time away from their own class to effectively carry out this role.
A note here about academies. They are not maintained schools, and therefore are not obliged to follow government directives such as this one. However, any academy worth its weight is likely to want to implement a similar policy. Our school is an academy, and they’ve never played the “We’re not maintained” card to evade responsibility when it comes to raising the aspirations of all their children.
So, if you’re looking around an academy, make sure they’ve at least thought this one through!
2. How is your Pupil Premium money spent?
a) We put it towards extra staff in classrooms/use it for intervention groups/spend it on training specific to the needs of vulnerable children. (Great answer. No prizes for guessing what our school spend it on.)
b) We spend it on snazzy computers and equipment which will give your child more ways to engage within school. (Hmmm…resources could be a good spend, but you need to probe a little further.)
c) We give it straight back to the parents so that they can buy the correct uniform for their children. (Uh-oh.)
Newsflash: all looked-after (or previously looked-after) children in the UK receive Pupil Premium Plus (PP+) – this essentially means that the school receives an extra wadge of cash each year to help qualifying children to overcome their disadvantages and have an excellent education.
Second newsflash: schools are not required to give this money to you, or to spend it directly on your child!
I’ve actually read some threads in online adoption forums which suggest that this is the case!
But if you were managing the budget of a small-medium company, and you received additional funding – would you spend it on things which would only last a year? Or things which would last a few years? Or on people who would have a greater long-term impact?
I realise that, as parents, a little extra cash towards uniform and equipment would be welcome, but hear me on this one: it will not improve your child’s education. UK parents all receive child benefit – and some of us receive tax credits and/or adoption allowance – which is supposed to go towards these items.
So when choosing a school for an adopted child, do look for one which is spending its PP+ on things which will have the greatest educational impact on your child.
I’m grateful that our school uses its PP+, amongst other things, to pay a full-time pastoral member of staff, to ensure that each class has a teaching assistant (in addition to 1:1 support for kids with SEN), and that regular small group interventions take place for children who are struggling academically.
They also make sure they’re up-to-date with training, especially on issues of safeguarding, pastoral care, and attachment.
I know that these things will have a big impact on my boys – and other children like them in the school – and am delighted that they’re already in place.
One thing to be aware of, though: while schools are entitled to use PP money as they think best, they’re also required to produce data to prove that they’re raising the attainment of the kids who attract this funding. AND, what’s even better, is that they’re required to make this information available on their websites.
So even before you look round those schools, make sure you’ve found this information online! It’ll arm you with lots of useful info for when you visit.
3) Have your staff done any training on attachment and/or trauma?
a) Yes, we sent our deputy head and pastoral lead on some training a year ago. (Brilliant!)
b) Yes we did but I can’t remember when it was – four, five years ago? (Not necessarily a terrible school – remember just how much training teachers need in all sorts of different things – but definitely time for a booster!)
c) What’s attachment? (Invite them round when your adopted child is having a half-hour paddy, hitting and biting you because his favourite book doesn’t have enough pages. Then they’ll know.)
With all of these questions, I want to issue a word of caution: no school is perfect.
There is so much for teachers to do, so much for school leaders to do, so much for governors to do, that it is literally impossible to focus on all of the things, all of the time.
Please don’t write off a school just because their attachment training is out of date (or they haven’t done any). They haven’t been lazy, or uncaring – they’ve likely been getting training in other areas. The key thing when choosing a school for an adopted child is their attitude towards attachment training once you’ve mentioned it. Do they seem keen? Are they taking you seriously?
(And why not share my no-fuss guide to the Four Types of Attachment Styles with them as a starting point?)
This leads me nicely onto the next question…
4. What are the areas you’re trying to develop right now?
a) We’re looking at our behaviour policy, raising the profile of Science within school, and tightening up our SEN interventions. (I want this school!)
b) Er… we’re trying to raise the attainment of all our pupils. (GET ME SOME DETAILS! I’M ABOUT TO ENTRUST MY MOST PRECIOUS POSESSSION TO YOU!)
c) None. We’re doing pretty well. (Not when Ofsted turn up, you won’t be.)
Ofsted like to see that schools know where their weaknesses are, and are taking steps to improve them. You should be interested in this too.
You want to know that the school your child might attend has a great attitude to learning – and that’s not just pupil learning, but staff learning. If they’re not actively trying to improve specific areas (and able to tell you them at the drop of a hat), then what exactly are they doing?
Remember: the perfect school doesn’t exist! Instead, look for one which is ‘on the up’.
5. How do you deal with behaviour in the classroom?
a) We use a system of natural consequences, helping children to relate their action with its consequences, and utilise restorative practice techniques to encourage children to think through their actions. (WOW. Literally. Does a school like this actually exist??)
b) We use a traffic lights system of red, yellow and green to reward behaviour and help children to see when their behaviour is less than acceptable. (There are many benefits to this approach, but the visual/shaming nature of it won’t always be suitable for looked-after children who already carry around a heck of a lot of guilt.)
c) We stand the child in the corner of the classroom with a Dunce hat. (Obviously not. Soooo obviously not – but cut me a bit of slack here, OK? It’s number 5 and I’m running out of steam.)
Again, a school doesn’t need to be perfect, but what you’re after here is some kind of guarantee that they work with their children on improving behaviour.
All children – but looked-after children especially – will get much more out of an approach which helps them to self-regulate their behaviour and make better decisions in the future. (This is the crux of therapeutic parenting – and The A-Z of Therepeutic Parenting is an absolute must for adoptive/fostering families and schools if you don’t already have it.)
These questions aren’t an exam! Please don’t disregard schools which don’t score highly on each question. All good schools are in a process of improving – you’re simply trying to find out which ones will be flexible to the needs of your child (and are aware that your child will have needs specific to his/her looked-after background).
I hope this guide has been helpful to you in choosing a school for your adopted child. Good luck as you look!