Dear Son, The other day you asked me whether your younger brothers were your step-brothers. We'd just returned from school, and I was distracted, sorting through book bags, reading letters and signing permission slips, so I don't think I gave you a very good answer. (That's the problem with being … [Read more...] about DEAR SON, THIS IS THE DEFINITION OF ‘BROTHER’
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As the 'at home' mum of twin 3-year-olds, I spend a lot of time in the company of other parents and toddlers. We share our trials and joys - but largely the trials. We discuss what time our children are waking up, what they refuse to eat, how many times they've sat on the naughty step today, and all … [Read more...] about DOES BEING ADOPTED AFFECT A CHILD? (5 WAYS MY TODDLERS ARE DIFFERENT FROM YOURS)
Disclaimer: These views are my own, and come from my 20-month experience as a Suzuki parent in a Suzuki Early Childhood Education (SECE) class, as well as a couple of days' observing SECE training this summer, and a few weeks under my belt as a Suzuki teaching partner. In short, this post represents … [Read more...] about ADOPTION AND THE BENEFITS OF THE SUZUKI METHOD
I wrote the following nearly two years ago, on the occasion of our twins' first birthday. Today, our twins turn one. I haven't yet met them, but I love them already. We need to celebrate - and yet how does one celebrate the birthday of someone they've never met? Someone who is already so firmly … [Read more...] about THE UN-BIRTHDAY: CELEBRATING THE BIRTHDAY OF THE CHILD YOU HAVEN’T MET
It should say enough about our experience of adoption that this blog post was supposed to be titled 'adoption: six months on'. Being around eight months late with everything has become a feature of the past fourteen months. There you go, enough said. We've adopted kids, and now we have no time. Job … [Read more...] about WHAT DOES ADOPTION LOOK LIKE, 14 MONTHS IN?
The following comes from my Advent devotional, Redeeming Advent. Buy it here! Advent, for our family, is a season full of traditions. I'd love to say that it was a time for increased spiritual growth, as I lead our young family in meaningful Bible reflections every morning - but, in reality, I … [Read more...] about ADOPTION AND ADVENT: COMING HOME
Sibling relationships vary so much - and that's without bringing adoption into the equation. For example, I have two brothers that I basically didn't grow up with - the large age gap meant they were away at school and university, and then moved out, while I was going through childhood. We are still … [Read more...] about ADOPTION: WHAT MAKES A SIBLING?
The time is getting closer - we are preparing to adopt! Later this month, we will meet and bring home our little boys for the first time. This season has got me thinking back to when our birth children were born, and the differences between bringing home a newborn and bringing home an adopted … [Read more...] about 7 WAYS ADOPTION IS DIFFERENT FROM BRINGING HOME A NEWBORN
We are preparing to adopt. People keep asking me "Are you excited?" or pre-empting with "I bet you're excited!". Usually, for a quiet life, I respond with a simple "Yes, I'm excited!", and that ends an otherwise awkward conversation. Apologies if you're one of the friends I've fobbed off in this … [Read more...] about WHY I’M NOT AS EXCITED ABOUT ADOPTION AS YOU MIGHT IMAGINE