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Parenting an Adopted Child

Parenting an adopted child is HARD WORK. You need fresh ideas and inspiration when the strategies employed by friends with their birth children simply don't work.

Here are some ideas, resources and general empathy/encouragement from a mama who struggles too.

HOW ADOPTION AFFECTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT (EVEN IF THEY’VE BEEN IN CARE FROM BIRTH)

January 27, 2020 18 Comments

This article explains why adopted children are more susceptible to pre-birth factors which might affect their development, such as domestic violence, drinking alcohol and substance abuse. It counters the argument that just because a child is taken into care at birth they will be 'fine'.

When we ask ourselves what are the negative effects of adoption, I'm guessing most of us think of abuse and neglect. We know that there are homes where children's needs are not met, where parents are not able to make the changes they need to in order to provide for their children, and/or where … [Read more...] about HOW ADOPTION AFFECTS CHILD DEVELOPMENT (EVEN IF THEY’VE BEEN IN CARE FROM BIRTH)

Adoption· Explaining adoption to others· Parenting an Adopted Child

WHEN NATURAL CONSEQUENCES DON’T WORK (THREE EXAMPLES)

January 13, 2020 2 Comments

Natural consequences are recommended for children, particularly those who have insecure attachment styles due to having been adopted or fostered. But are they always sensible or wise?

As an adoptive parent - and, you know, reasonably sensible, logical human being - I'm a big fan of natural consequences when it comes to behaviour management. This is simply allowing your child to reap the consequences of the action they've taken, with no/little additional input from you. You … [Read more...] about WHEN NATURAL CONSEQUENCES DON’T WORK (THREE EXAMPLES)

Adoption· Blended families· Family Life· Parenting· Parenting an Adopted Child

WHAT WE TEACH OUR ADOPTED CHILDREN ABOUT SANTA

December 16, 2019 7 Comments

What we teach our adopted children about Santa. For children who have experienced trauma, Christmas can throw up all sorts of triggers. This is what we do with our children.

I never formulated my ideas about Santa because of our adopted children, in case any of you think I'm more thoughtful about these kinds of things than I actually am. As a child, I enjoyed writing to Santa, sending my letter up the chimney of our open fire by making a draught with the door (a … [Read more...] about WHAT WE TEACH OUR ADOPTED CHILDREN ABOUT SANTA

Adoption· Christmas & Advent· Parenting an Adopted Child

SHOULD SINGLE CHRISTIANS ADOPT?

October 10, 2019 14 Comments

Should single Christians adopt? What does the Bible say?

Last year, I wrote an article for Home for Good on how our churches can support single adopters and foster carers. It was generally well-received, but one commenter asked - and I'm pleased he did - whether adoption was something we should be encouraging for the single brothers and sisters in our … [Read more...] about SHOULD SINGLE CHRISTIANS ADOPT?

Adoption· Explaining adoption to others· Faith· Parenting· Parenting an Adopted Child

SHOULD I HOME EDUCATE? 5: THE INDIVIDUALISED HOME EDUCATOR

March 21, 2019 3 Comments

Should I home educate? Read the stories of parents who have chosen to home school, for very different reasons and in different circumstances.

In all the stories I've shared so far this week (click here to start with the first), home education is done as a family, for all children in the home. But what happens when just one of your children is struggling with mainstream school, and the others are coping well? Becky tells us … [Read more...] about SHOULD I HOME EDUCATE? 5: THE INDIVIDUALISED HOME EDUCATOR

Adoption· Education· Family Life· Parenting· Parenting an Adopted Child

SHOULD I HOME EDUCATE? 3: THE HOPEFUL HOME EDUCATOR

March 19, 2019 4 Comments

Should I home educate? Read the stories of parents who have chosen to home school, for very different reasons and in different circumstances.

We've heard the story of Lizzie, who chose home education despite having worked in schools, and yesterday we heard Jenny's story of being converted to home education, having had her older four kids educated privately. But the question of 'Should I home educate?' takes on a new meaning when your … [Read more...] about SHOULD I HOME EDUCATE? 3: THE HOPEFUL HOME EDUCATOR

Adoption· Education· Family Life· Parenting· Parenting an Adopted Child

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT THERAPEUTIC PARENTING?

January 28, 2019 13 Comments

Therapeutic parenting is so beneficial for our adopted/fostered children - and, in fact, any children! But how does it match up with the Bible's wisdom on raising children, and the state of the human heart?

Our adopted boys have been with us over three years, yet I'd never properly come across the idea of 'therapeutic parenting' until two years in. As we've become more familiar with this approach, we've started to ask ourselves what does the Bible say about therapeutic parenting? Is therapeutic … [Read more...] about WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT THERAPEUTIC PARENTING?

Adoption· Discipleship for parents· Faith· Family Life· Parenting· Parenting an Adopted Child

CHOOSING A SCHOOL FOR AN ADOPTED CHILD (5 QUESTIONS TO ASK)

September 18, 2018 10 Comments

How do I find the best primary school for my child? If you have an adopted child starting school, this guide on how to choose a good school for your child will be invaluable.

Blink, and three years will pass in an instant. I mean, while you know and I know that it's only actually been three minutes since our gorgeous 14-month-old boys moved into our family, the calendar (damn that thing - is it even a trustworthy article?) suggests it's actually been nearly three … [Read more...] about CHOOSING A SCHOOL FOR AN ADOPTED CHILD (5 QUESTIONS TO ASK)

Adoption· Education· Parenting an Adopted Child

ADOPTION AND VICARAGES: HOW DO I KEEP CHILDREN SAFE IN A ‘PUBLIC’ FAMILY SPACE?

July 21, 2018 5 Comments

How do I keep adopted or fostered children safe in a public space like a vicarage?

The adoption process involves several home visits. Your social worker doesn't need to see a show home (thank flippin' goodness for that) – but they do need to see that you have the space for a new child/ren, that you're able to keep the home clean and tidy enough to nurture human life, and that … [Read more...] about ADOPTION AND VICARAGES: HOW DO I KEEP CHILDREN SAFE IN A ‘PUBLIC’ FAMILY SPACE?

Adoption· Adoption process· Faith· Home· Parenting an Adopted Child

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